A colleague of mine asked if I would answer some questions for her on non-verbal behavior. I asked her if a kiss could be an example. She said yes, so I sent her this. “When I was 11 years old I met BJ, a boy who lived on my block. We became friends. I remember we were wrestling on the grass in my front yard one day. We were both laughing so hard, when all of a sudden he leaned down and kissed me on the lips. It was the best experience. We lost touch as his family moved across the country, but this year we reconnected and he came to visit me for the first time in 35 years. I was so so so nervous. When I picked him up from the airport I could barely breathe. When I saw him coming down the escalator, I involuntarily started bouncing up and down. He says I looked like a bunny. As we embraced, I saw him going in for a kiss, but thought, no, it can’t possibly be this soon and thought I was misreading it, so I turned my cheek to hug him. We went to the cliffs to watch the ocean and he was so close to me with his face near mine, that I knew he wanted to kiss me for sure. I was nervous so I kept looking forward and smiling. I couldn’t help but smile. I felt like a kid again.

After we ate lunch we were both tired so we decided to take a nap. He was on his side of the bed and I was on mine. I don’t remember waking up, but he said I moved. All I remember was he turned towards me and placed the most beautiful kiss on my mouth. I reciprocated. Later he said, “I tried to kiss you at the airport, but you shut me down.”

What I didn’t’ realize is the profound effect writing about our first kiss would have on me. I felt my heart open up and caught myself smiling and laughing as I wrote it. After reading it for errors I had a big smile on my face and even more joy bursting though my entire body. I highly recommend doing this for a pick me up in your relationship. If you’re not in a romantic relationship, why not try it with the first time you met a dear friend?