I had a dream of three exes sitting behind me in a theater. I felt they were watching me and judging me and the way I was living my life. I wanted them to stop looking at me and disappear.

We can hold regrets and unprocessed emotions from our past deep in our subconscious mind. We can also release them when they come to the surface, either through our own searching or with astrological events like eclipses. Eclipses bring things to our awareness that we weren’t able to process at the time it happened. One thing that can come up is shame around how we behaved in a past relationship. Maybe we feel hurt that they don’t want anything to do with us. We think of what they must think of us. We can beat ourselves up about how we treated the other person or ourselves. While it’s helpful to become aware of our own past behaviors that were harmful to the other person and ourselves, there was probably a good reason for it. It may be that you brought out the worst in each other. It’s not who you are at your best. We can learn from the past and decide to make different choices in future relationships and maybe already have. For whatever  reason, that relationship needed to end. The ex or exes are in the past for a reason. We were all on a path to growth and there are people along our journey to help us learn our lessons.

There is no reason to keep the shame, regrets or emotions. We can decide to let these go. One way is to journal. Another way it to practice tapping. A third way is to release it by talking with the person’s higher self and asking for forgiveness for them and for ourselves. We can also ask our spirit helpers to help us let go of the regrets, shame and old feelings from past relationships and help us be present to how far we’ve come in our learning and behaviors that are good for our relationships.

If you would like help healing and moving into your best self in love, my friend Nina Mercie and I are offering our Heal Your Heart in 7 Days online program. We would love to have you.